FIND AND PROCLAIM THE GENTLEMEN AND HONOUR THEM FOR THEIR SPOUSAL VALUES AND PRINCIPLES

There are good men out there in the societies of the main lands, realms and territories of this world, and such men often turn out to be good husbands and fathers (Psalms 126).

I frequently get inquiries on morality and spirituality in marriage, family and corporate lives, especially when I speak about societal peace and harmony. 

I was once requested to share my thoughts and observations on the topic of marital infidelity, in this particular seminar. The young women explicitly and especially wanted to understand why married men cheat on their marriages regardless of how attractive and useful their wives are. 

I told them that I believe that there are many reasons why married men, and even married women cheat, as I have discovered in my different interactions and communication with people who needed help on their marriages, relationships and courtships and, in particular, in my job as a minister.

I have also come to believe that adultery in marriage is not merely a matter of personal preference and choice, but also a spiritual matter. The majority of the time, people of certain clans, tribes, and/or members of certain families have a genetic propensity for promiscuity, fornication, and adultery.

The mannerisms, habits, and backgrounds of the spouses in that family and their relatives must be examined in order to establish routines, trends, and connections and learn more about the reasons for this conduct.

And although there may be other odd explanations, it is commonly accepted that some husbands cheat their wives for the following reasons: 

1. They lack the fear of God (Eccle 2 vs 26, 3 vs 12)

2. They give in to the advances, sensuality, and covetousness of cunning and seductively attractive and beautiful women. 

3. They lack wisdom, knowledge, and understanding from God. 

4. They frequently lack sound advice from wise and moral associations and have a seared or dead conscience. 

5. They don’t create enduring, interactive friendships and relationships, 

6. These husbands were not taught as boys to be openly, physically, and emotionally attracted to their wives. 

7. The husband and wife do not regularly engage in sexual activity, and chat as friends, or pray together. 

8. They plot to have more sex but with other women or long for it with lust. 

9. They struggle with emotional instability and have an excessive sex appetite. 

10. They are unaware of the demonic nature and effects of erotic and sexually explicit materials and statements 

11. They no longer desire to have sex with their spouse because they no longer have erotic and romantic knowledge of them. 

12. They are deprived of the benefits of the spouse’s trade, virtue, serviceability, and education.

13. They lack self-control, are greedy, arrogant, and have incorrect behaviors in romantic relationships and incorrect perspectives on marriage.

14. They are susceptible to being charmed by weak-willed and purposeless women. 

15. They lack discipline and are opporopportunistic.6. They fervently support cultural behaviors that adhere to their long-standing ancestral standards. 

16. They do not respect the marriage institution or their spouse…. To be cont’d.

Pray!

– Charles Kwamena Ackon